Content in Singleness

Being single in today’s world can be difficult, especially when we are surrounded by the social pressure to date and get married. But while we may feel a sense of loneliness because we are not in a relationship, we must not let this be our utmost focus. There is so much more to life than trying to find a future spouse. We have been given the comfort of knowing that God holds each of us in his hand and has every one of our lives planned out. Our calling is to live out each day in thankfulness to God for choosing us to be one of His elect people. We must also remember that we are not alone in this world, because we have the blessing of the communion of saints, and are able to turn to friends and family when we are feeling discouraged with uncertainty. Proverbs 12:25 says, “ Heaviness of the heart maketh it stoop: But a good word maketh it glad.”  

But while we do this we must not forget to turn to God as well. He is the greatest friend we will ever have, and He knows us better than anyone and what a gift it is to be able to go to Him in prayer. It is the best time to ask God to show us His will for us. We must believe that He will lead us to what we need. If we continually meditate in God’s word, the way will become clearer and clearer as we read what He is telling us. We are often misled by what we think we want and therefore are led to things we think we need. We must not let the longing slay the appetite for living. God’s plan is our plan.  

As we look around we see that we live in an age of entitlement. All around the wicked are giving in to their each and every desire as they live in a false sense of happiness and satisfaction in their earthly lusts. They reject any form of chastity in their relationships and Satan is glorified in it all, and this path ends in damnation. It is easy to get lured into that entitlement way of thinking. With this in mind and the temptation all around, face the future, and be content in your singleness. Whether or not God has a relationship planned for you or me, we can be assured that all things will work for our good. Our purpose is to serve him with our whole heart, soul, mind, and strength, and what an amazing calling that is.

Lisa Oomkes


Have you ever been to any gathering where there was a multitude of people to talk to, and yet you never felt more alone? Have you ever felt such abject loneliness that it made you want to give up on life? How many of you are shy, don’t express yourself well, or are just plain not the most outgoing of a person? Maybe your social life is less than adequate and you want more friends. Either way, one thing is certain; you are not abnormal, you are not weird, and you are most definitely not alone.

In the beginning, God said, “let us make man in our image.” What this means is that we are a manifestation of who God is. Since God is a God of perfect relationship between the three persons, He therefore made us a people of relationships. We were made to commune with others, but most importantly with God. This is why we confess in the Apostle’s Creed, “I believe…the Communion of Saints.”

We were not meant to be alone. For as in the beginning when God created man, He then spoke, “It is not good that man should be alone.” Now I realize that that statement was specifically for the creation of woman. Nevertheless, it does imply that, even if one is not married, we are still  meant to have communion with other people. We were created by God to be creatures with social lives.

Loneliness pierced one to the very depths of the soul. Christ felt deep loneliness on the cross when He was crucified. If you look at all the things that Christ did and said both before and on the cross, He never once mentioned anything about His physical suffering. Until, under the full punishment of our sins that He took upon Himself, He could no longer see the love of His Father, whom He dearly loved. In other words, the loneliness that Christ felt on the cross was so great, that no physical pain could ever come close to what He felt at that moment. In fact, it was so great that He finally spoke these words, “My God, My God, Why hast thou forsaken me?” If Christ, who was both God and sinless man, (entirely man) couldn’t stand being alone, how much more than us?

This ought to be of great comfort to us. Never will we have to suffer the terrifying loneliness that He suffered. Never will we be alone. Never ought we to be afraid that we are social outcasts. And the best part of all this is that Christ knows loneliness, more than we will ever know; and since He knows loneliness and what it is like, we will never be alone. He can and will provide for all that we need in this life. 

Patrick Streyle