God’s Command to the Woman (2)

Genesis 3:16b “And thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”

A few weeks ago we looked at the first part of this verse where God tells Eve that she is going to bring forth children in sorrow and learned our responsibility as young women in the covenant to bring forth and raise the children God gives us. God’s word does not stop there though. He also gives Eve a duty toward her husband, a duty to respect and honor him as her head. Ephesians 5:22 puts the idea this way, “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Sarah called Abraham her “lord,” the leader of her life, the one she respected and honored as a picture of Christ in her life. And this too is the way we need to view our husbands. They are the head of their wives, even as Christ is the head of the church (Eph. 5:23). So therefore, it is the duty of the wife to let her husband know that she respects his decisions for the family.

Does this mean that women are just a tool in the hands of their husbands? That a husband can “boss her around” so to speak or expect her to do whatever he tells her to? This is not the kind of relationship Christ has with His Bride, and this is not the kind of relationship husbands and wives should have either. Christ as the head, serves His bride, loves her, and in dying for her and saving her He showed how deep His love for her is! He is not a tyrant ruling over His church without meeting her needs. But, we shouldn’t focus on the way a husband treats his wife, because the focus of the passage is on the wife serving her husband and desiring to serve and respect him.

This can be applied to women who are not married as well, especially because Christ is our real Husband. We can learn especially in our single lives, when the cares of a household, children, and a husband are not taking up our time and energy, really to put Christ first in our lives, to love to learn more and more who our God, our Husband, is. 1 Cor. 7: 34 speaks of the unmarried woman caring for the things of the Lord, while a married woman is busy with pleasing her husband. The need for young women in the church is often looked past or not thought of, but young women can be such a help to the other members of the church. Single life is a great time to babysit, to visit the elderly, or to make cookies for a mom who just had a baby. I’ll admit that when I was single and even now that I’m dating, I often think of these things and then think I’m too busy or have other more important things to do. My excuse is that when I’m married and have my own house, then I’ll have time for those things. But really, I know that won’t be true either. So let’s get into the habit of doing these things now! Serving the other members of the church is a great way for us to learn to put others first in our lives. Then if the Lord wills that we marry someday, we will have a beginning in understanding what we will need to do as wives and mothers in a life of service to our husbands and families.


You are worth more than rubies

Hello all! First of all, allow me to digress for a moment. Forgive me, I don’t often write formally, except for my biology reports, so my writings here may come out very similar to the way I talk: a little scattered sometimes. Thankfully writing gives me the privilege to edit.

Background now. I am working my way to a Bachelor of Science degree at a large, secular university. Therefore, much of what I write is likely inspired by things I overhear on campus, things I hear from my professors, and lifestyles I see around me. This is one such article.

I have had many opportunities of late to think carefully about music. Many of us are drawn almost inexplicably to music in one genre or another. Martin Luther once said “Beautiful music is the art of the prophets that can calm the agitations of the soul, it is one of the most magnificent and delightful presents God has given us.” So many of us, when we become frustrated, hurt, or sad, turn on our mp3, iPod, or phone, plug in our headphones and forget the world.  Music is where we often turn for comfort and serenity. Music does affect how we think too, else why would we be so drawn to some songs and not others? Are we not drawn to songs that seem to be written about our own lives? What are the words of your favorite song saying?

The reason for which I write this is because I hear people declare how much they love certain secular songs, which is just fine. But when those songs have words that are degrading toward women, celebrate sex, drugs and over-indulgence of alcohol, what good could possibly come of listening to and admiring such music?

I’m directing this more at the girls in high school and college. Gentlemen, edit my comments to fit you. Speaking as one, teenage and young women need to know that we are important, treasured, and loved. This music is not the way to gain that feeling. I implore my fellow young women, remember who you are! You are SO much more than your body and your looks, so why would you celebrate the music that would rather drool over your body than admire who you really are?

It seems cliché. It seems like you’ve all heard this a thousand times before. I know I feel like I have. When you want to be loved, treasured and adored, it won’t come from a man staring at your body. It will come from finding God’s declarations of love for you in His word, and truly realizing that He is speaking directly to YOU.

Those songs that speak of your body, your looks, your physicality? Do not ever mistake them as flattering, sweet or loving. They are trashy. They are repulsive. They seek to tear you from the One who created you TRULY beautiful. Seek words of affirmation in the Word of the One who loves you perfectly, purely, and unendingly.  Proverbs 31:10 “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.” Far above rubies. What a compliment. Such a compliment infinitely more flattering and loving than any secular song could ever dream of producing. And why are we priced far above rubies. Not because our hair is perfect, our skin flawless, or our bodies proportioned. It is because of the virtues in us that point to God Himself.